It's sure to happen. Sometimes you can't do anything to help it. There is bound to be a few spats when two separate people come together. But it's perfectly normal. It can be hard to get over a fight in a long distance relationship, so I've laid out a few guidelines below to help you through the situation.
While In The Argument
Choose Your Words Wisely
Some people end up saying some terrible things when in a heavy argument. We understand that you might be mad at each other. And it may totally be their fault. And you may be a total angel too. But remember to choose your words thoughtfully. Take in some long deep breaths and think it over before you say anything. This can help to shield your significant others feelings and is sure to speed up the making up process.
Don't Chat Too Much Until You Are Both Calm
It's no good talking to them while you are still upset with your lover. It's probably best to quit all communication until you both have calmed down and are ready to make up with one another. No phone calls. No text messages. No Skype.
When Making Up
Remember That It Doesn't Matter Who's to Blame
It's not about who's to blame. It's about what the issues are, and how to handle them in the future. If you argue over something that they don't really like about you, then it could be time to change that something they don't like. A lot of couples have an, "I'm not gonna change for anybody" attitude in a relationship. Take it from us, the ones that do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship.
Remember You Are Both On The Same Side
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. The decisions that will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want to achieve the same positive end result. Just remember that you are each on the same side.
Mail An Apology Note
A nice gesture after you have made up is to write your companion a letter explaining that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Let your partner know that you don't want to argue anymore, but make sure to let your feelings be known about the issues. You should send a gift along with it, or a picture that will help to remind them of a happy time you spent with each other.
While In The Argument
Choose Your Words Wisely
Some people end up saying some terrible things when in a heavy argument. We understand that you might be mad at each other. And it may totally be their fault. And you may be a total angel too. But remember to choose your words thoughtfully. Take in some long deep breaths and think it over before you say anything. This can help to shield your significant others feelings and is sure to speed up the making up process.
Don't Chat Too Much Until You Are Both Calm
It's no good talking to them while you are still upset with your lover. It's probably best to quit all communication until you both have calmed down and are ready to make up with one another. No phone calls. No text messages. No Skype.
When Making Up
Remember That It Doesn't Matter Who's to Blame
It's not about who's to blame. It's about what the issues are, and how to handle them in the future. If you argue over something that they don't really like about you, then it could be time to change that something they don't like. A lot of couples have an, "I'm not gonna change for anybody" attitude in a relationship. Take it from us, the ones that do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship.
Remember You Are Both On The Same Side
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. The decisions that will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want to achieve the same positive end result. Just remember that you are each on the same side.
Mail An Apology Note
A nice gesture after you have made up is to write your companion a letter explaining that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Let your partner know that you don't want to argue anymore, but make sure to let your feelings be known about the issues. You should send a gift along with it, or a picture that will help to remind them of a happy time you spent with each other.
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