Perhaps you have tried meditation and come away disappointed - you were expecting to feel calm, happy and focused, and instead got into an internal battle against your unruly mind! Rest assured, you are not alone. Meditation is an incredible tool to help you feel calmer, happier and more centered but many novices are under the mistaken impression that they have to try to stop their thoughts - and sadly give up when they realize they are unable to do this.
Please let me reassure you, you don't have to stop your thoughts! Meditation is actually really simple. There are thousands of meditation techniques out there (focusing on your breath, repeating a mantra in your mind, feeling the sensations in your body, gazing at a candle or a mandala). But basically there are just 2 steps to any meditation practice.
First, we focus on an object of concentration such as our breath or body sensations for example. Usually, quite quickly, the mind will get distracted by thoughts. All we have to do once we notice we are distracted, is calmly bring the mind back to the meditation object. We do this over and over again - that is why it is called meditation practice.
Eventually, rather than stopping your thoughts, you get better and better at not getting LOST in your thoughts, and you are able to tap into another aspect of your consciousness beyond your thinking mind: the aware mind.
Most of us spend the majority of our daily lives caught up in our THINKING MIND rather than our aware mind, and our thinking mind is where we experience our stress, frustration and worry. The nature of the thinking mind is to chew on problems, create a lot of internal noise and fixate on the future or the past. Unfortunately, the present moment is never enough for the thinking mind, it is always searching for something better or different, which of course, is a recipe for unhappiness.
By cultivating the aware mind, it is possible to experience surrender and peace in the moment because it is not preoccupied with the past or the future, it simply experiences the here and now. It is naturally calm and free from drama, negativity, mental stories. Because it seeks nothing, it is satisfied and accepting. With practice, the ability to tap into the aware mind becomes stronger and it gradually starts to change your experience of life for the better.
With a regular daily practice of even just 10 or 20 minutes you will see many benefits. It will be easier to make healthier choices for yourself because of your increased self-awareness. Dealing with stress, worry, anxiety and depression will become much easier. Relationships can improve as you become kinder - to yourself and others. Sharper concentration and focus will improve your work-life. But best of all, you will be able to enjoy the precious moments of your life instead of wondering where they disappeared to while you were preoccupied with other things.
Please let me reassure you, you don't have to stop your thoughts! Meditation is actually really simple. There are thousands of meditation techniques out there (focusing on your breath, repeating a mantra in your mind, feeling the sensations in your body, gazing at a candle or a mandala). But basically there are just 2 steps to any meditation practice.
First, we focus on an object of concentration such as our breath or body sensations for example. Usually, quite quickly, the mind will get distracted by thoughts. All we have to do once we notice we are distracted, is calmly bring the mind back to the meditation object. We do this over and over again - that is why it is called meditation practice.
Eventually, rather than stopping your thoughts, you get better and better at not getting LOST in your thoughts, and you are able to tap into another aspect of your consciousness beyond your thinking mind: the aware mind.
Most of us spend the majority of our daily lives caught up in our THINKING MIND rather than our aware mind, and our thinking mind is where we experience our stress, frustration and worry. The nature of the thinking mind is to chew on problems, create a lot of internal noise and fixate on the future or the past. Unfortunately, the present moment is never enough for the thinking mind, it is always searching for something better or different, which of course, is a recipe for unhappiness.
By cultivating the aware mind, it is possible to experience surrender and peace in the moment because it is not preoccupied with the past or the future, it simply experiences the here and now. It is naturally calm and free from drama, negativity, mental stories. Because it seeks nothing, it is satisfied and accepting. With practice, the ability to tap into the aware mind becomes stronger and it gradually starts to change your experience of life for the better.
With a regular daily practice of even just 10 or 20 minutes you will see many benefits. It will be easier to make healthier choices for yourself because of your increased self-awareness. Dealing with stress, worry, anxiety and depression will become much easier. Relationships can improve as you become kinder - to yourself and others. Sharper concentration and focus will improve your work-life. But best of all, you will be able to enjoy the precious moments of your life instead of wondering where they disappeared to while you were preoccupied with other things.
About the Author:
Sharee James is a yoga and meditation instructor, a naturopath and founder of Ashima Living. To learn more about how to calm your mind, watch her short video meditation for beginners or grab her free e-guide "Stress-Less" here .