Relationships are difficult under the best of circumstances. But if there has been a serious breach such as an affair, it is even more difficult. The wronged party experiences a vast array of negative emotions, including depression, hurt and anger. But it's important to move past these emotions, especially the anger. Allowing it to fester will have a negative impact on all other relationships, including your friends, family, and coworkers. It is even harmful to your health.
There are constructive ways to deal with the anger you feel after being cheated on. Keep in mind that anger is often really "hurt" in disguise. The two emotions are very similar and often anger is a way to mask the hurt you harbor inside. So address the pain and you will also be addressing the anger.
When you have anger in your heart, you will find that it affects your relationships, from your friends, to your family, all the way to your co-workers. Eventually, your life will begin to fall apart, and you will start down a path that you never wanted to see in the first place.
1. Talking to someone about your feelings is one of the best ways, either with a trained professional, or with a close and discreet friend or family member.
Talking to someone will help you clear your head and put things into perspective. They may give you advice but you don't need to take all of it. Take the advice that you think will help you and do it.
2. This is one thing that every angry and depressed person should do regularly because the benefits cannot be emphasized enough. Exercise releases happy hormones that fight stress. It will help release all those pent up energy brewing inside that is contributing to your anger.
2. It might seem like a waste of time, but a depressed and angry person should do this on a regular basis as it benefits them greatly. Through exercise, positive hormones are released which will help to fight stress. In addition to that, your pent up energy will be released. Also, exercise will help you to feel better about yourself!
4. An act of infidelity is bound to do a number on your feelings of self worth, but it does NOT have to be the end. If the marital relationship matters to you - and to her - together you can move beyond the crisis and have a full and happy life together. However, it takes communication and a mutual commitment in order to do this.
Valuable lessons can be learned if you are objective about the incident. Keep in mind that she is, like you, an imperfect human being. She blew it. The important thing is she still loves you and wants this relationship to work.
4. Learn your lessons, and in time, things will become easier. There are many ways to distract yourself, and eventually, move on with your life.
Whether with or without her, you now have a chance at a fresh start. Use the lessons you've learned from the past to build a meaningful and happy future.
There are constructive ways to deal with the anger you feel after being cheated on. Keep in mind that anger is often really "hurt" in disguise. The two emotions are very similar and often anger is a way to mask the hurt you harbor inside. So address the pain and you will also be addressing the anger.
When you have anger in your heart, you will find that it affects your relationships, from your friends, to your family, all the way to your co-workers. Eventually, your life will begin to fall apart, and you will start down a path that you never wanted to see in the first place.
1. Talking to someone about your feelings is one of the best ways, either with a trained professional, or with a close and discreet friend or family member.
Talking to someone will help you clear your head and put things into perspective. They may give you advice but you don't need to take all of it. Take the advice that you think will help you and do it.
2. This is one thing that every angry and depressed person should do regularly because the benefits cannot be emphasized enough. Exercise releases happy hormones that fight stress. It will help release all those pent up energy brewing inside that is contributing to your anger.
2. It might seem like a waste of time, but a depressed and angry person should do this on a regular basis as it benefits them greatly. Through exercise, positive hormones are released which will help to fight stress. In addition to that, your pent up energy will be released. Also, exercise will help you to feel better about yourself!
4. An act of infidelity is bound to do a number on your feelings of self worth, but it does NOT have to be the end. If the marital relationship matters to you - and to her - together you can move beyond the crisis and have a full and happy life together. However, it takes communication and a mutual commitment in order to do this.
Valuable lessons can be learned if you are objective about the incident. Keep in mind that she is, like you, an imperfect human being. She blew it. The important thing is she still loves you and wants this relationship to work.
4. Learn your lessons, and in time, things will become easier. There are many ways to distract yourself, and eventually, move on with your life.
Whether with or without her, you now have a chance at a fresh start. Use the lessons you've learned from the past to build a meaningful and happy future.
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Do you want to know how to deal with infidelity? There are a lot of ways to deal with this kind of problem and you need to be strong if you want this to be effective.
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