Attracting the man of your dreams or any man, for that matter, probably isn't as difficult as you are making it out to be. Once you know a few secrets about what men find attractive and how men think, you can leverage this covert intelligence to attract and connect with any man. No matter what you look like, how much you believe that he's out of your league or even if he already has a girlfriend, you can attract and connect with any many you choose once you understand how men think and process attraction.
While it is unfortunate that men and women don't think alike, if it was simple then there would be no challenge. Many women make the mistake of trying to give a man the same signals or treatment that they desire. Men are simply wired differently and they feel attraction on a different level. Becoming friends might be easy but if you are hoping to ignite romantic feelings that lead to a relationship then you must understand how to make him look at you differently and feel differently around you than he does with any other woman.
As you know already, men are primarily attracted to things visually. We could use cars as an example, among other things. A man will like a car because of how it makes him feel visually before he sits in it or takes it for a test drive. A man is also attracted to a woman visually initially and this will play a role throughout the courtship process as he becomes connected to you. Of course, eventually, that visual stimulation wears off and his decision about who he is attracted to takes other factors into consideration such as personality, character and temperament. Initially, you need to attract him visually before you can show him how wonderful you are. If you are worried now because you're not perfect or you feel that there is nothing visually attractive about you then just relax. All that is required is at least one single visual trigger for him to take notice of you and then the fun begins.
It could be that you have nice hair or beautiful eyes or a pleasant shape that is appealing to a man's eyes. To improve your odds of winning, you can accentuate your best features and not worry about the features that might not be so attractive. We all have things that we like about ourselves as well as thing that we would rather hide, if possible. By accentuating just a few of your positive features you may hit a nerve that will allow him to see only that one feature and that is your foot in the door.
Now the real fun begins. You might be hesitant to flirt but it is a necessary part of the mating ritual. Birds and beasts alike flirt. Women in our society used to be skilled at flirting but it has gone out of style in the past few years. This doesn't meant that flirting doesn't work. Flirting works very well and it is appreciated by men tremendously. Most women feel that it's silly or beneath them. This is just one more reason why flirting will get his attention and set you apart from other women. You might think that you're being transparent or that he will think that you're ridiculous but quite the opposite is true. Men rarely experience being flirted with so overt flirting is actually quite flattering to them.
Flirting involves everything that you have been led to believe it does. Batting your eyes at him, winking at him, laughing at his jokes, leaning in close when you talk to him and making eye contact are all methods of flirting that actually work. Touching him when you talk to him or when he's close is another great way to make a connection with him and make him feel something for you without being too forward. Flirting really is a lost art but you don't have to be skilled to flip your hair or look at him longingly through your tousled hair. Even smiling is a form of flirting but you have to know how to do it right.
Getting inside his mind and creating a deep connection with him is easily accomplished by talking with him. Engaging him in deep conversation where you both show that you're interested in him as a human being but also drawing him out to expose himself will be your goal. He may have a lot of people in his life that he considers close friends. He might even have women in his life that he dates from time to time but you're going to connect with him on a level that most people never attempt to connect with him on. By asking a certain type of question or line of questions that probe deep down into who he actually is, he will feel like he has known you all his life.
For instance, you might ask him what he does for a living. After he answers, asking him if this is what he envisioned himself doing when he was a kid, is a good question that will lead you into his private life. Dig deep and you will be able to get him to talk about his past, his family and even past relationships. He will bond with you and feel connected with you in a way that can only be surpassed by physical intimacy. Be aware of any hesitation in his voice. Assure him that you find him interesting and that you want to hear more about what he thinks and feels.
You see, attracting the man of your dreams doesn't have to be complicated or full of tricks and schemes. You can attract a guy using his instinctual attraction to things that he sees and then draw him closer using these bonding techniques. Once a man feels that kind of connection, it doesn't matter what you look like, how much money you make or even what skeletons you have hiding in your closet. He will feel drawn to you and want to spend more time with you because you make him feel important and he is attracted to you. This is basic male psychology and how you can use attraction to get any man to pay attention to you.
While it is unfortunate that men and women don't think alike, if it was simple then there would be no challenge. Many women make the mistake of trying to give a man the same signals or treatment that they desire. Men are simply wired differently and they feel attraction on a different level. Becoming friends might be easy but if you are hoping to ignite romantic feelings that lead to a relationship then you must understand how to make him look at you differently and feel differently around you than he does with any other woman.
As you know already, men are primarily attracted to things visually. We could use cars as an example, among other things. A man will like a car because of how it makes him feel visually before he sits in it or takes it for a test drive. A man is also attracted to a woman visually initially and this will play a role throughout the courtship process as he becomes connected to you. Of course, eventually, that visual stimulation wears off and his decision about who he is attracted to takes other factors into consideration such as personality, character and temperament. Initially, you need to attract him visually before you can show him how wonderful you are. If you are worried now because you're not perfect or you feel that there is nothing visually attractive about you then just relax. All that is required is at least one single visual trigger for him to take notice of you and then the fun begins.
It could be that you have nice hair or beautiful eyes or a pleasant shape that is appealing to a man's eyes. To improve your odds of winning, you can accentuate your best features and not worry about the features that might not be so attractive. We all have things that we like about ourselves as well as thing that we would rather hide, if possible. By accentuating just a few of your positive features you may hit a nerve that will allow him to see only that one feature and that is your foot in the door.
Now the real fun begins. You might be hesitant to flirt but it is a necessary part of the mating ritual. Birds and beasts alike flirt. Women in our society used to be skilled at flirting but it has gone out of style in the past few years. This doesn't meant that flirting doesn't work. Flirting works very well and it is appreciated by men tremendously. Most women feel that it's silly or beneath them. This is just one more reason why flirting will get his attention and set you apart from other women. You might think that you're being transparent or that he will think that you're ridiculous but quite the opposite is true. Men rarely experience being flirted with so overt flirting is actually quite flattering to them.
Flirting involves everything that you have been led to believe it does. Batting your eyes at him, winking at him, laughing at his jokes, leaning in close when you talk to him and making eye contact are all methods of flirting that actually work. Touching him when you talk to him or when he's close is another great way to make a connection with him and make him feel something for you without being too forward. Flirting really is a lost art but you don't have to be skilled to flip your hair or look at him longingly through your tousled hair. Even smiling is a form of flirting but you have to know how to do it right.
Getting inside his mind and creating a deep connection with him is easily accomplished by talking with him. Engaging him in deep conversation where you both show that you're interested in him as a human being but also drawing him out to expose himself will be your goal. He may have a lot of people in his life that he considers close friends. He might even have women in his life that he dates from time to time but you're going to connect with him on a level that most people never attempt to connect with him on. By asking a certain type of question or line of questions that probe deep down into who he actually is, he will feel like he has known you all his life.
For instance, you might ask him what he does for a living. After he answers, asking him if this is what he envisioned himself doing when he was a kid, is a good question that will lead you into his private life. Dig deep and you will be able to get him to talk about his past, his family and even past relationships. He will bond with you and feel connected with you in a way that can only be surpassed by physical intimacy. Be aware of any hesitation in his voice. Assure him that you find him interesting and that you want to hear more about what he thinks and feels.
You see, attracting the man of your dreams doesn't have to be complicated or full of tricks and schemes. You can attract a guy using his instinctual attraction to things that he sees and then draw him closer using these bonding techniques. Once a man feels that kind of connection, it doesn't matter what you look like, how much money you make or even what skeletons you have hiding in your closet. He will feel drawn to you and want to spend more time with you because you make him feel important and he is attracted to you. This is basic male psychology and how you can use attraction to get any man to pay attention to you.
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