There's nothing unusual about your desire to get back together with your girlfriend or wife after a breakup. You love her and she was a part of your life every day for some time until things began to get weird. Every man that has ever been dumped has been where you are and even the strongest man alive would probably tell you that it affected his self-esteem and his life, in general. What you need to know is that your ability to get back up, brush yourself off and make some changes is important if you are serious about winning your ex back. This includes your attitude. You will find that attitude means everything when we're talking about relationships and especially your relationship with your wife or girlfriend after a breakup.
Most guys try all the tried and true methods that they are told will help them to convince their girlfriend to come back. You have probably already thought of trying to talk things through or promising that things will be different in order to change her heart. Of course, in case you didn't already know, these methods aren't going to get you anywhere. Unless your wife or girlfriend has a desire to work things out, these methods will only make her avoid your further. If you are guilty of trying to talk to her about getting back together or if you made some emotional plea for her to come back to you because you love her then you have done more damage than good. The only way that you are going to undo this damage is by giving her a little space and time. You should avoid trying to make contact with her and wait for her to connect with you again. It will happen but it's going to take a while. You can contact her again at some point if you want to but only once you have your life straightened out and you are feeling strong emotionally again.
Your primary focus now is to change how your ex-girlfriend or potential future ex-wife thinks about you. This is going to require you to change your general attitude towards her and women overall. What will this attitude be like? Your attitude should be one where you are unwilling to tolerate being talked down to or treated in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable. If your ex does make you feel uncomfortable or upset, you need to be willing ahead of time to walk away both from the relationship as well as the conversation. Always keep this in mind and remind yourself of this new attitude and it will be felt by your ex-girlfriend if not seen by her the next time she starts treating you poorly.
You might worry that your ex will be offended or that she will laugh at you but the opposite is true. The moment you are willing to walk away, she loses the power in the relationship. Once you stop tolerating bad behavior from a woman, you take the power back. Try it sometime. The next time any woman treats you poorly, tell her that you don't have to put up with this since she isn't your girlfriend and physically walk away. You might be surprised by how quickly things will change. You will have passed her test and she will have a new found respect for you.
Next, never let your girlfriend or wife see you upset, sad or depressed. You always want your ex to see you at your best. This means that your physical appearance is tidy and clean. You have a smile on your face and your body posture and body language says that you are happy. You have a renewed zest for life. You have goals and dreams as well as the ability to achieve anything that you set your mind to. While the breakup was devastating to you, your life is actually better now that you no longer worry about what she thinks of you. You're free to do what you want with your life.
You might worry that your ex-girlfriend or wife will take your new found confidence as a slap in the face. You might think that she will think that you don't care about her anymore or that you don't want her back. That's fine. Let her think that. Let her ask you about it. Life is for living and we all only have a certain number of days on this earth to live. If she wants to be a part of that life then that would be great but if not, you still have to be happy. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to have everything that you ever desired in life. You're a new man. Never let her see you sweat and never let her see you cry.
Along with all of this, you need to back up your claims to being so happy and loving life with something real. What are you doing? What is your life all about? It's time that you solidified your goals and dreams and wrote them down. You have wasted enough time being sad. It's time for you to be happy. What makes you happy? What do you want to achieve in your life? Do you want to travel the world? Have you always dreamed about being wealthy? How are you going to get there? What do you dream about when you're feeling good and you feel that you can achieve anything? Write it down and start making plans for how you're going to achieve these goals. Whether your girlfriend or wife is a part of that dream is up to you.
You will find that in relationships with women and in life, in general, your attitude has everything to do with your success. Women have an instinct for picking up how strong or weak a man is and they are always attracted to men that are confident and who have vision. People in general are attracted to others that are happy. This is just how we are wired. Once your ex realizes that she made a huge mistake about you and your relationship, she will want come back to you. Once she feels attracted to you again there will be no holding her back. Any obstacle that was in her way before will be gone. There will be no need to talk about the breakup and you won't have to change a thing about yourself. She will want to get back together and you will be the one to decide whether you want to continue the relationship or not.
Most guys try all the tried and true methods that they are told will help them to convince their girlfriend to come back. You have probably already thought of trying to talk things through or promising that things will be different in order to change her heart. Of course, in case you didn't already know, these methods aren't going to get you anywhere. Unless your wife or girlfriend has a desire to work things out, these methods will only make her avoid your further. If you are guilty of trying to talk to her about getting back together or if you made some emotional plea for her to come back to you because you love her then you have done more damage than good. The only way that you are going to undo this damage is by giving her a little space and time. You should avoid trying to make contact with her and wait for her to connect with you again. It will happen but it's going to take a while. You can contact her again at some point if you want to but only once you have your life straightened out and you are feeling strong emotionally again.
Your primary focus now is to change how your ex-girlfriend or potential future ex-wife thinks about you. This is going to require you to change your general attitude towards her and women overall. What will this attitude be like? Your attitude should be one where you are unwilling to tolerate being talked down to or treated in any way that makes you feel uncomfortable. If your ex does make you feel uncomfortable or upset, you need to be willing ahead of time to walk away both from the relationship as well as the conversation. Always keep this in mind and remind yourself of this new attitude and it will be felt by your ex-girlfriend if not seen by her the next time she starts treating you poorly.
You might worry that your ex will be offended or that she will laugh at you but the opposite is true. The moment you are willing to walk away, she loses the power in the relationship. Once you stop tolerating bad behavior from a woman, you take the power back. Try it sometime. The next time any woman treats you poorly, tell her that you don't have to put up with this since she isn't your girlfriend and physically walk away. You might be surprised by how quickly things will change. You will have passed her test and she will have a new found respect for you.
Next, never let your girlfriend or wife see you upset, sad or depressed. You always want your ex to see you at your best. This means that your physical appearance is tidy and clean. You have a smile on your face and your body posture and body language says that you are happy. You have a renewed zest for life. You have goals and dreams as well as the ability to achieve anything that you set your mind to. While the breakup was devastating to you, your life is actually better now that you no longer worry about what she thinks of you. You're free to do what you want with your life.
You might worry that your ex-girlfriend or wife will take your new found confidence as a slap in the face. You might think that she will think that you don't care about her anymore or that you don't want her back. That's fine. Let her think that. Let her ask you about it. Life is for living and we all only have a certain number of days on this earth to live. If she wants to be a part of that life then that would be great but if not, you still have to be happy. You deserve to be happy. You deserve to have everything that you ever desired in life. You're a new man. Never let her see you sweat and never let her see you cry.
Along with all of this, you need to back up your claims to being so happy and loving life with something real. What are you doing? What is your life all about? It's time that you solidified your goals and dreams and wrote them down. You have wasted enough time being sad. It's time for you to be happy. What makes you happy? What do you want to achieve in your life? Do you want to travel the world? Have you always dreamed about being wealthy? How are you going to get there? What do you dream about when you're feeling good and you feel that you can achieve anything? Write it down and start making plans for how you're going to achieve these goals. Whether your girlfriend or wife is a part of that dream is up to you.
You will find that in relationships with women and in life, in general, your attitude has everything to do with your success. Women have an instinct for picking up how strong or weak a man is and they are always attracted to men that are confident and who have vision. People in general are attracted to others that are happy. This is just how we are wired. Once your ex realizes that she made a huge mistake about you and your relationship, she will want come back to you. Once she feels attracted to you again there will be no holding her back. Any obstacle that was in her way before will be gone. There will be no need to talk about the breakup and you won't have to change a thing about yourself. She will want to get back together and you will be the one to decide whether you want to continue the relationship or not.
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