Monday 16 September 2013

Body language techniques that may help you in understanding what folks are actually saying

By Daniel Dunder


Even when you do not say a word, folk can still learn plenty about what sort of person you are and what you are thinking and feeling. How do other people do this? By studying your body language. The term body language makes reference to the messages you send out with your body gestures and face expressions.

It's quite necessary to learn non-verbal communication so as to actually hear what people say. Some communication experts claim that between 5-10% of our communicaton is done through the words we speak. The remainder of our messages are conveyed through our body language, tone of voice, and face expressions. During your whole life you have been sending messages to others through your posture, gestures, and expressions. When you were a child, before you learned to talk, folks were looking into your tiny baby face, taking a look at your gestures, and listening to your little cries and gurgles, attempting to interpret what type of mood you were in, and what you were making an attempt to say. And you've been reacting to the body language, voice tone, and facial expressions of the people around you all your life, although you might have not been consciously aware of it.

What types of messages are you conveying to others with your body language? Does your body language inspire other folks to approach you? Or do you subliminally warn them to keep away? Take a second to consider how you typically stand or sit when you are with other folks. What are you doing with your hands? Where are you looking with your eyes? Does your face express interest in the people you are with, or does your face stay a tense, stony mask? When you're standing or sitting, do you usually cross your arms across your chest? If this is your typical way of standing or sitting, how do you think people interpret this posture? Did you realize that most individuals will subconsciously translate your arms crossed in front of your chest as a signal that you do not need anybody to approach you? Only the gutsiest souls are likely to stand up when you adopt this posture.

If you stand roughly, with your chest slumped forward, your shoulders bending, and your eyes avoiding everybody else, folk are probably going to decide you are extraordinarily depressed or completely low in confidence. They may fret that trying to talk with you will be a ungainly experience. When you stand roughly, you don't project any sign that you are assured in yourself, or that you have any interest in the people around you. Instead you appear to be you are endeavoring to disappear. Regardless of how despairingly you need someone to come over and befriend you, if your body language projects disinterest in others, it isn't very likely that many people will attempt to start a talk with you.

If some body language signals can scare folk away, are there signals which will inspire folks to step forward and come up to you? Yes, you can look much more approachable to others if you adopt body language that's open and unthreatening. Whether or not you are standing or sitting, aim for a posture that's upright and alert, yet relaxed. If you notice that your chest or shoulders are slumping, straighten up. Become aware about the way you are breathing. Does your breath move in and out smoothly? Or does it move with jerky small stops and starts? If you notice you are holding your breath, or breathing in a shallow, jerky demeanour, this is a sign of anxiety. When you breathe shallowly, you have got to breathe more frequently, which can increase your appearance of anxiousness. Consciously tell all of the muscles of your body to relax. Use your abdomen to help you breathe smoothly and seriously. Let the bottom part of your lungs fill up with air as well as the top. What are you doing with your hands? If you get scared in social situations, you can feel that regardless of what you do with your hands, it's the wrong thing. Many of us who cross their arms in front of their chest are probably doing so at least in part because they do not know where else to put their hands.

Stay aware of and focused on your environment and the people around you. If you find yourself tuning out your environment, you will start to focus too strongly on your interior thoughts. This can speedily raise your tension to a uncomfortable level. It is very important to notice that even if you are not talking, you are communicating. You wish to make sure that you're sending out the message that you would like folks to be receiving. Non-verbal communication is something worth brooding about, and consciously working on improving. It can be a incredible tool, reinforcing what. You need to say, or can lead to misunderstanding it your non-vebal cues are not supporting the words leaving your mouth.




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