Tuesday 14 August 2018

Rules To Follow When Dating Muslims

By Ann Turner


Islam supports courtship that leads to marriages with integrity. This is why it puts strict rules for dating Muslims. They apply to couples who are both adherent of the faith as well as those who faiths diverge. When these principles are broken, the violating parties face very serious consequences. They are regarded as outcasts from the community and will face the wrath of Allah.

Islam recognizes that people fall in love. In fact, religious teachings encourage people to love each other and also extend the love to all creations. The principles used during courtship are designed to protect the persons involved from hurt and the society from broken or dysfunctional marriages. This is why the Quran remains the central point of focus in every facet of the relationship, engagement, premarital sex and marriage.

The Quran does not restrict people when and where they can meet. Traditionally, a man and a woman would be introduced to each other by their parents or relatives. It means that each side had already vetted the other person and ascertained that he would be fit for their son or daughter. This was made easy by the fact that people lived together in communities and had full knowledge of each other.

Online meeting for Muslims is gaining traction because people no longer live together and also want to make personal choices regarding the people they love. The internet also allows one to get in touch with people who are in distant countries. However, this does not meant that the rules have been suspended. They are followed as religiously as if it is the traditional society. This is good for the partners and society at large.

The principle rule of courtship is that the partners must never be found in the same room or space without a chaperon. This seclusion is deemed dangerous because it exposes the couple to temptations of sexual engagement. When you meet online, a person must not tempt you into getting into private space. This will compromise personal integrity, leaving you hurt and destroying your courtship.

Chaperons were present in traditional setting. Present day dating websites for Muslims have tweaked the idea to involve group activities where age mates, friends and family are involved. This happens through outdoor activities where you can interact with dignity. Remember that until marriage, even kissing or such closeness is prohibited.

There is growing emphasis for halal dating. It allows you to maintain contact with the person you are interested in without violating the rules. You remain in touch through phone calls, internet or meet during public gatherings. This arrangement still allows family, friends and relatives to introduce potential partners. As you continue to engage, you will make a decision whether to continue with courtship till marriage. A Nikah is signed- this is a contract that is as binding as a marriage certificate.

Dating in Islam must not be mistaken for lack of personal will or emotions. You have an opportunity to love a Muslim whether you follow the Islam religion or not. With Halal dating, you have time and the space to develop an understanding and later commit to marrying each other to live happily ever after.




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