Tuesday 4 July 2017

The Value Of Developing Self Love

By Susan Cooper


Developing the outward appearance is something that most people work towards. This will include working on your job performance, your hobbies and your various skills in life. It may be your relationship with your children and your partner. However, very few people look towards the inside appearance which involves developing self love.

When you have compassion for yourself, you are be able to have more empathy for others. You will be able to lead a healthy lifestyle. You will have rewarding and fulfilling relationships. You shall get the most out of life. You begin to see what is most important in life by focusing on the inner appearance instead of what people see on the outside.

You may love your husband or your wife. However, to avoid complications in your relationship the first thing you have to do is to love yourself. It does not come overnight. It will obviously depend on the person and what they have been through in life. For someone who has been emotionally abused, they will find that this can lead to a low sense of self esteem, and this will be more difficult to work through.

It is understandable why you may be harsh or unkind to yourself. You will have a stressful job. You may be a parent who has a child who is going through a bad patch. This can lead to self blame. You may also have come from a dysfunctional family. Individuals who have grown up in this way usually put themselves down and are often negative about themselves.

It is more difficult to be kind to yourself when you have been emotionally abused. This will be drilled into the brain from a young age. However, it is important to change these negative thought patterns. Often, this requires intense therapy. It can be a slow process, but one needs to be patient. Over time, clients begin to improve and this is obviously encouraging.

People begin to see that they are, indeed unique in terms of their personality and their character. It is important to take note that when you compare yourself to others, you will continue to become negative about life. You will want to achieve more like your colleague or be more extroverted like your friends. However, those people won't have certain qualities you have.

Get to know more about your unique character. Everyone has a character that is unique to them. It is important not to compare this with anyone else. Weight up your strengths and what can come out of this. Remember there are people that may have strengths, but you may not be able to see their weak points and this is something to take into consideration.

Of course, you will have bad days. This is only natural. However, this is the time when you must surround yourself with positive people who are able to encourage you. You also need to talk to yourself in a positive way. This will avoid negative self talk to crop up which can obviously bring you down and result in a set back.




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