Monday 22 August 2016

How To Get Kids To Listen To You

By Carolyn Long


When children are developing, both emotionally and on a physical level, parents often find that there is a lot to learn about their kids. One of the things that they struggle with is how to get kids to listen to what they are saying. However, one must remember that there are certain techniques to use. Parents will, therefore become less frustrated.

Of course, this can be difficult when you are calling your child for dinner or you are trying to talk to them and they are busy in their own world. A lot of parents naturally become impatient and start to raise their voice. This is not very helpful because it can lead to a lot of conflict in the home. Some children become fearful of the parents.

It is important to know that your child is actually listening and attentive before you start engaging with them, or else this is going to lead to a lot of frustration. For example, when a child is completely engaged in a project, they become focused on this. They don't allow any distractions to enter into their space. You have to make sure that you are able to make contact with them.

You have to connect with them so that they don't feel intimidated. When they are very busy with something, an order or command will often go through one ear and out the other. You need to be able to connect with the. This will also create a stronger bond. You can do this by touching them, and making eye contact.

Sometimes it is best to warn the child that they need to do something or go somewhere in a certain time. This will give them a warning. It is also important to include a term of endearment, which reduces any sense of threat and will increase the warmth that the parent has for their child. The parent should also be ready for a reaction.

Have compassion for your child and treat them as if you would want to be treated at that age. It is not always easy when you are growing up and struggling in this way. You need to think of the right way to come up with the most appropriate words which they would use with their friends. In this way you would be connecting with them on their level, and creating a stronger bond.

One can become impatient at times when children don't listen to what you are saying. You must realize that this is part of the development process and you need to stay calm. Take a deep breath and remember that if you start to become upset and raise your voice, the situation is only going to become worse.

When you have something like autism, for example, you may not be able to hear anything from the outside world. You are so focused on what you are doing that your social skills take a back seat. Parents need to patient. They need to be able to sit with their child and communicate gently with them. It is also important not to repeat because it won't help.




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