There are these moments during particular days where I must be astonishingly honest with myself about what I am going through and feeling. I know when it is preparing to come up because I get this wave of chills from the base of my neck down to my back and I feel my mood start to change. I was once scared of it...the sensation of water almost dripping down my back. But in time I have learned how to sit with it.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling up to the surface.
Sometimes we go through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We think we have completely recovered or have moved on, but in reality there are still pieces to the puzzle that need to be put together. Maybe it is just one piece left, perhaps it is simply this moment where you have to sit down and get quiet one last time, or possibly it demands more of your attention.
There's a fascinating balance between moving forward and taking the time, whatever the situation speaks for, and starting to grasp what is happening inside of you. I think much of the time when a person is hurt and other people see it they attempt to tell that person to pick themselves up as fast as is humanly possible and forget the past. This advice, while intended to be beneficial, isn't really practical - as the same person who gave that advice, in the same situation, couldn't possibly take it.
The most sensible advice you really could give isn't to forget as quickly as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring inside. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can actually understand what something basically means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result.
Have a honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They're life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrid place. Let life do what it must do in order to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move onward. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to chat with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them pour reason into your heart.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling up to the surface.
Sometimes we go through life not fully grasping that there are things under the surface. We think we have completely recovered or have moved on, but in reality there are still pieces to the puzzle that need to be put together. Maybe it is just one piece left, perhaps it is simply this moment where you have to sit down and get quiet one last time, or possibly it demands more of your attention.
There's a fascinating balance between moving forward and taking the time, whatever the situation speaks for, and starting to grasp what is happening inside of you. I think much of the time when a person is hurt and other people see it they attempt to tell that person to pick themselves up as fast as is humanly possible and forget the past. This advice, while intended to be beneficial, isn't really practical - as the same person who gave that advice, in the same situation, couldn't possibly take it.
The most sensible advice you really could give isn't to forget as quickly as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring inside. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can actually understand what something basically means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result.
Have a honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They're life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrid place. Let life do what it must do in order to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move onward. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to chat with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them pour reason into your heart.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move forward with your life and recover from a relationship? Try these ex boyfriend quotes out.
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