Thursday 4 December 2014

Benefits Of Dealing With Insecurities In A Relationship

By Claudine Hodges


It is sad that though insecurity is one of the major killers of many relationships, many people are not able to overcome it. In most cases, feeling of insecurity comes in when spouses are not able to trust one another in the right way. Lack of trust makes them keeping on suspecting that their partners are doing something fishy behind their back. This is sad, especially when it is an allegation. It can lead to emotional pains, and eventually kill the love between the lovers. Dealing with insecurities in a relationship is a great way of making sure that lovers enjoy their love relationship.

It is very important to have a good self-esteem. This is because; a low self-esteem leads to problems when it comes to confidence. You find that people with such issues find it hard to express themselves to their partners. Ascertain that your partner understands you in every way possible so that you can have a good life together.

Self condemnation is very destructive since it hurts your ego. There is nothing bad as believing that you are not important and there are better people than you out there. It hurts your body and soul and therefore, you might not be able to rise to greater heights in your career or relationship. Low self esteem is acquired from the environment and therefore, it can be unlearned.

When a young couple comes together and unites through marriage, they normally have very high expectations on each other. However, when reality strikes and make them desperate and stupid, they can start blaming each other for their troubles. If they do not have tolerance and patience to work at their shortcoming, they may end up separating.

If you would like to enjoy love it is always important that you ensure that you let go some of the experiences that you had in the past. Some of these things may tie you up and you will not have time to enjoy the person that you have at the moment. If you would like to live a healthy relationship, it is always important that you drop down some of the bad memories and experiences that you have had in a row.

Everything starts from the mind. Actually, the feeling of insecurity starts from your mind. It is therefore important to guard your thoughts. Do not let your mind think negative things about your spouse, unless you have credible proof towards your accusations.

Communication is also a good way that would help you to ensure that you get to know why something never happened as you would like. For instance you may agree with your partner to show up at a certain venue. It is always important to be patient and excuse him or her if something led to the failure of the meeting.

Never make your spouse know that you losing your trust on him or her, unless you have a good reason to do so. For instance, you should not judge that he or she is unfaithful, simply because; you caught him dancing with a person of opposite sex. Always get to know the reason and motive before snooping.




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