Bullying is a problem that is all round us. Most of us have faced off with a bully at one point or the other. Bullying may be defined as the habitual use of any form of aggression with the aim of gaining power over another person. There is, in addition, the use of threats, abuse, coercion and intimidation. A bully targets a specific target that they deem to be vulnerable in a particular area. Some of the criteria that may be used for discrimination include gender, class, religion, body size, age and so on. There are a number of things that you need to understand if you wish to deal with bullying.
This undesirable behavior can be in divided into 3 forms; emotional, verbal and physical abuse. Emotional and verbal abuse are forms of insults and intimidation while physical abuse is hands on. The pattern of abuse is almost similar in both females and males when both victim and perpetrator are adults who would rather have it the verbal and emotional way. This is because physical violence tends to paint a bad image in public and perpetrators would rather avoid it. Physical abuse may also be avoided when the target appears stronger than the perpetrator. However, in majority of cases, females are usually non physical.
This act can also be categorised into direct and indirect. The direct form involves using force as in shoving, pushing, biting, kicking, pulling and so forth. The indirect type which is also known as social aggression entails trying to isolate the victim. This is made possible through spreading negative publicity concerning the target.
One would wonder why bullies take so much pleasure in aggression. Research has shown that most bullies lack self esteem and therefore use physical and emotional abuse for the purpose of concealing their weaknesses. Another reason could be jealousy or resentment. Some bully because they have been victims before or have lived in such an environment.
Some bullies may be obsessed with tormenting others because they suffer from psychiatric conditions. Bullies are usually characterised by high a temper and feeling too good about themselves outwardly though this may not be the case in reality. In addition, bullies report poor performance academically
There are many negative effects associated with this problem including depression and a feeling of loneliness. The victims also have their self-esteem lowered markedly and start to lose interest in life activities. In extremes, it may lead to post-traumatic stress disorder or PTSD. The victims become bitter and may themselves become violent in future. If one manages to stand up to a bully, they gain a lot of respect in return.
To cope with bullying, training programs have been set up for guardians, teachers and parents. Such programs may include peer counselling and forming school bullying policies. The state can also be involved in creating laws that restrict people from abusing others.
Victims can deal with bullying but taking the challenge heads on. They need to face their opponent with confidence and a positive attitude. This way, they end up gaining respect and admiration of not only the bullies but also the immediate onlookers.
This undesirable behavior can be in divided into 3 forms; emotional, verbal and physical abuse. Emotional and verbal abuse are forms of insults and intimidation while physical abuse is hands on. The pattern of abuse is almost similar in both females and males when both victim and perpetrator are adults who would rather have it the verbal and emotional way. This is because physical violence tends to paint a bad image in public and perpetrators would rather avoid it. Physical abuse may also be avoided when the target appears stronger than the perpetrator. However, in majority of cases, females are usually non physical.
This act can also be categorised into direct and indirect. The direct form involves using force as in shoving, pushing, biting, kicking, pulling and so forth. The indirect type which is also known as social aggression entails trying to isolate the victim. This is made possible through spreading negative publicity concerning the target.
One would wonder why bullies take so much pleasure in aggression. Research has shown that most bullies lack self esteem and therefore use physical and emotional abuse for the purpose of concealing their weaknesses. Another reason could be jealousy or resentment. Some bully because they have been victims before or have lived in such an environment.
Some bullies may be obsessed with tormenting others because they suffer from psychiatric conditions. Bullies are usually characterised by high a temper and feeling too good about themselves outwardly though this may not be the case in reality. In addition, bullies report poor performance academically
There are many negative effects associated with this problem including depression and a feeling of loneliness. The victims also have their self-esteem lowered markedly and start to lose interest in life activities. In extremes, it may lead to post-traumatic stress disorder or PTSD. The victims become bitter and may themselves become violent in future. If one manages to stand up to a bully, they gain a lot of respect in return.
To cope with bullying, training programs have been set up for guardians, teachers and parents. Such programs may include peer counselling and forming school bullying policies. The state can also be involved in creating laws that restrict people from abusing others.
Victims can deal with bullying but taking the challenge heads on. They need to face their opponent with confidence and a positive attitude. This way, they end up gaining respect and admiration of not only the bullies but also the immediate onlookers.
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