Tuesday 14 May 2013

Marriage Counseling: The Value Of Time In A Marriage

By Deborah F. Garcia


Do you remember the time when you and your partner were still dating? Before, both of you could not get enough of each other and you spend time together most of the time. Now, you resort to marriage counseling because one or both people in the relationship are too busy with the responsibilities associated with marriage. These responsibilities include children, family, job, and friends.

In marriage counseling, time is really important in a relationship and this is what most couples often forget. It does not include time with your partner, along with other people in your family or friends. It refers to the time you spend alone with your partner. The best example for this dates back when you and your spouse were still hanging out in movies, having dinner dates, or going out on trips.

Growing Old Together

You may have heard Adam Sandler's popular line 'it would be so nice, to grow old with you'. Well, aging is inevitable and you'll definitely grow old with someone if you want to. The question is - how do you grow together rather than growing apart?

Before you can communicate, you must know how important time is in your relationship. Many couples have experienced the lack of time with each other that caused so many problems in the long run. In marriage counseling, you will be asked to spend time with your partner. It's difficult, but you have to find a way to do this if you really want to save your marriage.

Time Is Very Important

About 90% of long-distance relationships fail because couples can't spend time with each other. How can you be possibly be in love with someone that you don't know very well? You might be able to love someone even if you don't spend time with each other, but it's impossible to be "in love". This is the reason why time is very important in relationships.

Here are the questions that time could answer in your relationship:

* How do you solve budget issues in the family?

* How do you send your affection?

* How can you work on your communication?

Without spending time with each other, both of you has the tendency to make selfish decisions. With this, problems occur that springs out more problems in the future. Without communication, you and your partner will never understand how the relationship that was once happy, turned into a nightmare. If you go for marriage counseling, you will also need the time to focus on your marriage first.

The Man And The Woman

Thinking that spending quality time with your partner while watching the kids, paying bills, doing house chores, and interacting with extended families is quality time is wrong. You have to understand that quality time in marriage involves the man and the woman, nothing else. Most couples tend to spend very little time together as a couple and that often causes problems in the future. Thinking like "we don't feel connected anymore" or "he/she doesn't pay attention to me" are signs that you don't spend quality time together.

Marriage counseling teaches you how to find time in your relationship. Prioritizing your marriage more than your career or family is necessary for the program to work.




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